Why Anger Control is so important in a relationship with your partner

Jass

Anger is a normal emotion of humans. However, anger is also expressed sometimes towards those that we love the most, to our family members, friends, and including our romantic partners.

Whatever the reasons are, anger can have a great impact to someone. And it can be a common emotion that you feel towards your partner, maybe it's your husband or wife, or your boyfriend or girlfriend.

The way couples deal with their problems and anger can fix or maybe break the relationship. That's why managing your anger is essential in a relationship. Don't settle for screaming and useless arguments and breaking of things around the house. 

When you are fighting with your partner, sometimes you tend to get so angry at them and just be silent. Maybe you need silence to calm yourself but you should also consider your partner's feelings.

Communication is also important. Sitting down and talking things over is a great help for both of you. Instead of ignoring each other and taking too long to solve the issue, why not just calm down and tell each other the things you want to talk about and focus on the solution of any issue you have. Communication and understanding each other is more important than venting out your frustrations and anger.

Yes it maybe hard not to get angry to your partner, especially when then they had a mistake or committed a wrong thing that hurts you. It's important to apologize also when you got angry. But if your partner is the type of toxic person that doesn't help im managing your relationship and doesn't help in your growth as a person, then maybe you need to consider breaking up with the person rather than suffering everyday.

In a relationship, it's important to understand that your partner have flaws. Do not just yell or criticize her suddenly for having made a mistake. 

Also, sharing your thoughts and opinions to your partner is one way to understand each other more. Asking what he hates and likes about you, plans, opinions on you, and many aren't that bad. Maybe that will be the way that you will discover more sides of your partner that you didn't know in the first place.

Focus on managing your relationship when there is a problem. Trying to threaten them to reconcile is not that good too. A healthy communication is helpful.

When we are angry to someone, we tend to calm them and appease them as quickly as possible. But we can't really control anyone's thoughts or emotions. So instead of that, why not just focus on managing yourself too and check on what's needed to be improved in yourself. Let your partner realize his or her mistakes and hope and pray that they will work on improving themselves too. Attempting to control them maybe have a negative reaction from them. 

Also, there are relationships where if the couple is angry to each other, they tend to seek help from a friend, or just from someone. Seeking help and advices from the right people is good, but if you only want comfort from other people just because you had a fight with your partner is something so wrong. That's not a part of your relationship at all. Are you really asking for help to fix your relationship?? Or are you just finding someone to agree with you? 

If it's a problem that doesn't need talking to another person, then it's best to calm down and later talk the issue with your partner. You may have a problem, but you are also each other's companions and best friends and not just partners. Be aware of your partner's feelings and don't complicate any problems you have. 

But if your partner is the type to get angry and doesn't have a the matured mind to handle your problems, then instead of hating them, just show them your love and tell her or him how much you love them no matter what. Be calmer and more mature always whem the situations call for your maturity. One day, your partner may see what's wrong with herself and time will come that her maturity will rise to the same level as yours.

Be calm and watch what you say when you're angry......

Because at the end of each days, your relationship is more important than your problems.

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