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Abuse, a scourge that affects millions worldwide, leaving deep scars and shattered lives. This feature delves into the heart-wrenching stories of children and women who have suffered at the hands of their tormentors. We explore the various forms of abuse, the devastating impact, and the resilience of survivors.

Statistics reveal alarming rates of child abuse and domestic violence. Here are some statistics on child abuse and domestic violence in Nigeria ; 60% of Nigerian children experience some form of violence, with one in four girls and 10% of boys having been victims of sexual violence. Only 5% of children who reported violence received support. Nigeria has the largest number of child brides in Africa with over 23 million girls and women who were married as children. 27% of girls and women aged 15-49 have undergone female genital mutilation/cutting (FGM/C), the third highest in the world. No significant gender difference in children's exposure to domestic violence, although female participants reported a slightly higher mean score on children's exposure to domestic violence than male participants.

Here are some personal accounts from survivors of abuse; One of the victim of child abuse that choose to remain anonymous said "I was just 8 years old when my stepfather started sexually abusing me. I felt so scared and alone. I thought it was my fault. My stepfather would beat me and my mother almost every day. I thought that was normal until I grew up and realized it wasn't."

Rachel a victim of domestic abuse said "I was in a marriage where my partner would constantly belittle me and threaten to hurt me. I felt trapped and helpless. My husband would beat me in front of our children. I stayed silent for so long, but eventually found the courage to leave."

An anonymous victim of sexual assault said "I was raped by someone I trusted. It took me years to come to terms with what happened and seek help. I was sexually harassed at work and felt so vulnerable, but speaking out and seeking support helped me heal."

These personal accounts are a testament to the resilience and courage of survivors of abuse. It's important to create a safe and supportive environment for them to share their stories and receive the help they need.

There are several forms of abuse, including; Emotional Abuse which involve verbal abuse (name-calling, insults, constant criticism), psychological abuse (manipulation, gaslighting, emotional blackmail), Isolation (controlling who you spend time with, limiting freedom), belittling (making someone feel worthless, humiliating them), threats (physical or emotional harm). Physical Abuse (hitting, slapping, pushing, shaking, physical restraint (holding someone against their will), burning, scalding, or physical torture, Forced physical labor or exercise, denial of basic needs), Sexual Abuse which involve rape (forced sexual intercourse), sexual assault (unwanted touching, groping, fondling), sexual harassment (unwanted advances, comments, gestures), sexual exploitation (using someone for sexual purposes), forced sexual acts (prostitution, pornography). It's important to note that abuse can take many forms and can be perpetuated by individuals, institutions, or systems.

Abuse can have profound and long-lasting effects on mental health and well-being, including; anxiety and depression, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), complex trauma, dissociation, low self-esteem, shame and guilt, difficulty with emotional regulation, substance abuse, suicidal Ideation, difficulty with intimate telationships, hypervigilance, avoidance Behaviors, Intrusive memories, emotional numbing, loss of identity. Abuse can also lead to physical health problems, such as; chronic pain, fatigue, sleep disturbances, digestive Issues, weakened immune system. It's important to remember that everyone's response to abuse is unique, and the effects can vary depending on the individual, the type and duration of abuse, and the support received. If you or someone you know has experienced abuse, it's essential to seek professional help from a mental health professional, such as a therapist or counselor. With appropriate support and treatment, survivors of abuse can heal and recover.

Children are the most vulnerable victims, while women are the disproportionate targets of abuse. The silent sufferers of abuse are those who endure abuse without speaking out or seeking help. They may suffer in silence due to; fear of retaliation or escalation, shame or guilt, embarrassment or stigma, lack of trust in authorities or support systems, fear of not being believed or being blamed, cultural or societal pressures to keep quiet, economic dependence on the abuser, isolation or lack of social support, mental health conditions or substance abuse, historical trauma or generational abuse. These individuals may suffer in silence for extended periods, leading to prolonged physical and emotional harm. It's essential to recognize the signs of abuse and offer support and resources to help them break the silence and seek help.

Some signs of abuse include; unexplained injuries or absences, changes in behavior or mood, withdrawal from social interactions, difficulty concentrating or making decisions, unusual fear or anxiety around the abuser, changes in physical appearance or hygiene. If you suspect someone is suffering in silence, offer support and connect them with resources, local counseling services or support groups, online resources and forums to help them break the silence and seek help.

Remember, breaking the silence is the first step towards healing and recovery. The Path to Healing for victims involve Support systems and resources for survivor. Some support systems and resources for survivors of abuse are; National Domestic Violence Hotline: support and resources for domestic violence survivors, available 24/7, call 1-800-799-SAFE, National Sexual Assault Hotline: support for survivors of sexual assault, available 24/7, call 800.656.HOPE, National Street Harassment Hotline: support for survivors of street harassment, call 855.897.5910, National Child Abuse Hotline: support for survivors of child abuse, call 800.422.4453, National Human Trafficking Resource Center: support for survivors of human trafficking, call 888.373.7888, The National Center for Victims of Crime: support for victims of crime, call 855.484.2846, RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network): support for survivors of sexual violence, call 800.656.HOPE, The Hotline: support for survivors of domestic violence, call 1-800-799-SAFE, Online therapy and support groups: platforms like BetterHelp and Innerbody offer online therapy and support groups for survivors of abuse, Inspiring stories of recovery and empowerment.

Conclusively, Abuse may try to silence its victims, but their voices will not be muted. Together, we can break the silence and create a safer, more compassionate world.

OLUSEGUN LOVE OLUWANIPINMI