Baskadia

BEING Nice to people we live with or come across in our daily lives, is a socially CORRECT thing to do. It is also a sign of courtesy or a sense of sensitivity to their emotions and personality. Hence, we often find ourselves in situations where  we are forced to  be nice to people whom we know deep down in our hearts, don't deserve any act of  kindness or politeness from us.

I KNOW in our lives, we've come across people who are crude, cruel, rude, ruthless, insulting, and uncharitable with their words and who also do not care about anybody's feeling. And It is sad, when we encounter such people, society still expects us to be nice especially when the person is a rich buyer,  a politician or a big man (an influential person)  and we are at the receiving end. The worrying part is when this happens in family settings between us and brother/sister, cousins, aunty/uncle, father/mother; and  we are asked to let cool heads prevail.

IS IT GOOD to have a seemingly peaceful community or family while the people within it are emotionally hurt, broken and destroyed for good, all in the name of peaceful coexistence?. No, I don't think this augurs well to anyone: neither to the abused nor to the one who goes on abusing without impunity, and needs to learn how to be responsible with words/actions.  When we keep doing/ continue with this, we create a society of Hurtful People where deep rooted hatred are transferred from person to person and from generation to generation. 

SOMETIMES being loving means, we are bluntly truthful to ourselves and to the people we live with. When we find ourselves in such  situations, let's first of all ask ourselves how we truthfully feel about what happened.  If it is something we can let go and not keep the hurt inside, then let's just do it and  allow  a sleeping dog lie. But if we are honestly hurt and our emotional capacity can't contain  it, then spill it out and be free. And be very truthful about it. Again if this hurt comes through cynical comments or irrational demands, please let's  STAY TRUE to ourselves and our EMOTIONS and let's not be APOLOGETIC about it. 

SGD Austine Kekeli.

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