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Marriage is what we all know but for emphasis its a union between MATURED parties (man and woman). Maturity here is thinking and behaving in a sensible, adult manner Oxford Dictionary. Someone asked can there be marriage without tears (shortcomings)? Emphatically yes. If you can conceive it then it is achievable. Why do you want the party far away from you before come close it shows your heart yearn (long) for him/her. Then why will you want him/her dead? Why are you treating him/her bad? Why dont you want to give love a chance again?. The WHY are unending but like I said earlier, you can end these WHY. There are dreams you have had concerning your marriage, you can birth them by answering the why(s).

To answer the why(s), one needs to be SINCERE to oneself whether as intending couples or married. Can I tolerate what I have done to the other party. This must be a frequently asked question in marriage. As couples always ensure your home is not scattered. Repair it as the need arises before its late. Shut out third party in your marriage as they also have their own challenges which they keep away from you. They dont have anything to offer. SHUT THEM UP!!!

Invest in your marriage through giving and compromising here and there. Before embarking on a journey of divorce consider your investments (human and non human resources).

In marriage, we are all managers. How you manage your marriage determines your success and your perfection Marriage and Destiny 2019.

Play your roles for the success of the marriage

AS HUSBANDS

You are the head, priest of your family be ready to take lead

Value, honour and praise your wife this make her happy

Be ready to play a defensive role in your home

Counsel your wife as situation rises

Submit to your wife ( we disagree to agree)

Provide for the needs of the family ( financial, emotional, material etc.)

AS WIVES

Absolute Submission ( bossy wives loses their home)

Be a source of inspiration to your husband

Be to your husband a counselor

Encourage your husband to be Spiritually inclined

Housekeeping/child bearing is your major role do not shy away from it

Be a companion ( support your husband if need be)

Never take decisions (major) without his consent; it makes him feel unimportant in your life.

Always give respect to your man ( feed his EGO) allow him to feel like the boss to allow peace.

Do not provoke him before others

Walk and walk together.

MARRIAGE WITHOUT TEARS MUST NOT LACK:

COMMUNICATION

This is the driver that propels a unique marriage without it one is heading for a shipwreck. How can you stay with a man or woman for 47-50years ( all things being equal) in marriage without communication this is insanity. Someone said if you cant cope, opt out. Well, one opt out, two and three after reflect on your marital path and secular life if you have gained anything peacefully. You keep polluting the world (hazardous breeds), unless divinity takes charge children from such a home are threat to the world at large (in government and on streets)

VOID OF EGO

Each party must be willing to endure (tolerate) one anothers shortcomings not unbending in whatever situation. Infact, each party must be willing to be SORRY to give peace a chance. Why will I be sorry? Every time. Okay, wait a minute Its better to be SORRY than being LATE”. If you dont want to be sorry, then you are throwing your own existence dynamite and you end up destabilizing the world. Remember not only you will suffer for the avoidable bomb, the whole world will suffer for your headaches. No matter your post at work MADAM accept/give sorry. BOSS of the house, I think you should use the word more frequently. Drop your Bosship in the office or on the street before you enter your home. We have had enough of headaches in the world save us this one. Please, on his/her behalf the world is saying S-O-R-R-Y in advance. Always go with this word. Sir/ma, teach your kids let them grow with it make the world a better place for all . stop breeding baby mama( single mothers) and run away Dad ( irresponsible fathers) .

Let it go- T.D Jakes

Dont allow anything too big to let go for the sake of your peace/wellbeing. Build a shock absorber. Be ready to let go even before the shortcomings surface.

INTIMACY

Marriage void of tears must not lack intimacy (play) doing something for pleasure as children do to enjoy yourself rather than work Oxford Dictionary

Hmmm.mmm, after all the stress in and out of the home, give play a chance at all times. Infact, let people see another TOM and JERR Y around, be the talk of the town. You will see people who will emulate your style, indirectly making the world a better place. TOM and JERRY offends each other, they settle no malice, grudges. Its always fun. Understand time and seasons of your spouse. Know when he/she is going through mental torture. If you can reach him stay close, if otherwise stay calm and watch out for the best time to shoot. DONT BE TOO OLD TO PLAY, PAPA(S) AND MAMA(S) this is 21st century. Have you tried backing?, work out, moonlight stroll, cinemas et al. Madam, tell your husband you want to ride him, if he feeling big, tell him to go marry his mother not my voice oooo. Be to yourself siblings. In the other room make it fun and not work( dont turn yourself to a machine) you have a long way to go together ;if divinity allows. Dont make yourself older than your age.

In every situation, always remember what draws you close to each other in the first place and see your marriage a perfect one( marriage can be enjoyed and endured choose wisely).