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Why I think I’m not a wife material

Today I was withdrawing money from a certain agent and few minutes into it,we started having deep conversations. I’m a regular customer but it’s always been business. I really admire people who are diverse. I love listening to big minds because my mind blows. So, I don’t really know how deep in the conversation we were when he started talking about his ex wife. Here’s it.

Apparently,he married a first wife who came with a societal perception that the guy is rich. He has a chain of Mpesa stalls. I’d call him stable though, rich is overrated. She messed him up so bad he’s still dealing with FIDA three years down the line. Later, came a second wife who’s stall he invested over 450,000 and later the business failed. The wife dramatically took him to the chief because he asked her to close down the business, I mean, it was not profitable. The guy is frustrated right now. Got me thinking, ” ati mlisema wife material ni gani?”

In the past, or rather even now, some men still think a wife can only be these holy mary mother of Jesuses(lack of a better word). Y’all want a wife who dresses well, is cool with your mom, a woman who’s a church goer, she’s a princess by the looks,name them. Have it ever occured that maybe the material should actually be the mind? How smart is she? How much growth can you achieve with her in your life? How much growth has she achieved at a personal level? Don’t get me wrong. No one is talking about graduates here. Truth be told some are more dumb. While interacting with a woman for long term relationships, do you discuss businesses, job opportunities, house management.etc

I’ll give you an instance. The other day I was straining financially so I thought going out with my friend to take a drink or two will make me think straight. So, I get myself to a certain nearby restaurant . Some time later, some guy starts engaging me in a conversation. Tries flirting, doesn’t work so he gets serious and asks what I do. I really don’t know,so I told him “I survive”. He asks my major and on hearing education he asks whether I can write reports. Truth be told, I’ve never written one professionally but well, I told him yes. Long story short, I landed a small deal that took me off the edge of a cliff. My drink got me that job.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not advertising my bad behaviors😂 . Infact I’m proving I’m not a wife material. I’m at a point in my life where I think cultural perception is overrated. These “I want to settle with special ideal women” should come to and end. Not every woman was built to do house chores. Personally I’d gladly leave them dirty to take a Job.

Well, this all makes me think I am not a wife material. Being single has made me realize I’m not an ideal cultural wife. Because I have tried acting the wifey part. And it didn’t work for me. Ain’t saying I can’t do it but I sure as hell know it might not fit me Anyways,all said and done, my husband should get a “wife”. I don’t mind being the ” partner”

In conclusion, my point is, choose yourself a partner you know will help you grow. She doesn’t have to be financially stable on her own. But, you need to consider key aspects. Can she handle your goals and dreams and help you get where you want to be? Can you give her a push and see her going to greater heights? Do you have common goals??