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I know, all of you just happened to take a quick glance at your memories of your first love after reading this heading. Because, it is the one which happens to almost everyone & many of them are secret love stories.

First of all, it should not be called as first love. Because, we fall in love only once in our lifetime. But we think otherwise, so we named it as first love. It is true that love happens only once. You will also approve of me before the conclusion of this article.

Many of you kept their first love (Sorry, I’m writing it as first love, but I have no other choice) as secret. Since it is unrequited love and you are embarrassed on talking about unrequited love with anyone and also because it is the one in which you didn’t succeed. We usually talk about our victories, not about our failures. Some may think that failure teaches us and it is not applicable in this matter. They talk about their failure love stories and give their advices to new generation. But they don’t know, they are talking about love, not any job or college seat etc, in which we can improve ourselves after hearing failure stories. Because every person is unique in the concept of love. If you take the advice of someone who failed in his love and do something which should have been done in his love life, it may not work for you because you are not loving his lover right? Every person is different and their expectations are different.

Love is something that can happen without our knowledge. When we first acknowledge it, it is a very different feeling, a cutest feeling ever, and an emotion which can lead us to a completely different dream world. They say when we are in love, we smile even when no one is around us, and yes it is true. At that time we sleep less. World seems to be very much beautiful than our dreams. It is not only for them who had two-sided love, but also for them who had unrequited love until they confess to their love or till they find out that their love falls for someone else.

This first love always happens to be pure and transparent. It do not happen after a lot of thinking or after being sure about caste, or future of the person we love or our future with that person etc. It doesn’t matter if that person has good job or qualifications or looks. We feel different for someone for the first time in our life. We were not aware of that feeling and at first hesitate to name it as love. We only knew about love in films, stories till that time. When we encounter it for the first time suddenly in our life, we afraid if it is love or just a crush. That’s why we want to take some time. But that break makes our life regretful sometimes. When we acknowledge our love for them, they acknowledge it for someone else. That is in case of unrequited love.

Some of you who are bold enough to take courage and confess even though you are not sure if it is love or crush. You think that if it is love, then you should not miss them and go on with the flow. Sometimes it happens to be your crush and for the other who loves you after your confession it was their true love. That is the biggest problem. When you break up with them after realizing that it is only a crush, they feel betrayed.

We always place our first love in a special spot of our heart. Whenever we talk about our first love, we feel that pure, innocent love and slip in that memories. First love cannot be forgotten easily since it is usually a very long love story of our lives. It takes many years to confess and also to push everything to a side of our heart and cover it with a thin sheet (Because we can’t forget everything and we can cover it but that’s also by a very thin sheet so it will uncover anytime) and move on. Also, that love is very childish and we feel happy for at least a glitter of our love and also for smallest reasons. Also then, we were very innocent and we believe that there will be a happy ending like in fantasy stories and we were full of positivity, we always hope for the best. But when we realize that every story does not have a happy ending, then we start to lose our positive attitude, and start to find out the mistakes made by us in our love and analyze our every actions and also want to correct it and then we make some strategies (Yes, it is funny to call it as strategy. But actually we make some decisions what to say, what not to say and what to do and what not to, that’s why I mentioned it as strategy) to win next time.

After failure in our first love, most of us start to hunt for a better person than our first love or sometimes we start a relationship just to forget about our first love. If we impose conditions like better person, good job, looks, then it is not love. It is purely intentional, not pure love. That’s why I told you that love happens only once. After that, any other relationships we make are just adjustments with our feelings. After the first unrequited love we compare every other relationship to that unrequited love and it seems like a bet which we once lost. So we want to do well and win this time anyhow. It is like a job we want to acquire or a thing in a shop we want to have it by whatever means possible. That’s how that so called second love loses its sincerity, purity and innocence and it remains only as stubbornness with our pride and prejudice.

A few other people who failed in their first love and not tried for any other relationships in their life (or tried but failed) are those who agreed with me from the beginning that love happens only once. They prefer to sleep more. Now you can say why. Yes, that’s right. For them dreams become more beautiful than the real life. So they prefer to sleep more to dream more.