Baskadia

Whilst many of us are secluding ourselves by choice or instruction, you'd think the internet is a bridge so that it should mend our relationships with friends, and family and confree whether far or near to us. This is what everyone needs and this could have been that moment in time when the internet (and its proudest son, social media) shines. 

But am afraid it looks like the opposite ( sorry to say that)

I had my first Facebook account when I was 12 (used my mom's phone😃). But never in that era other than now have I really felt obliged to use Facebook 24/7. Nor has it ever forced me to be more depressed, anxious, judgemental, or hateful of people which is not exactly what many of us applied for individually or collectively right now

These are some of the reasons social media ain't a great idea for you right now

1. people are (unknowingly) under pressure, panicking and depressed.

People are not calm. People are not rational in fact they do not have straight thoughts. People are going through a lot because of these harsh economic grounds. This undeniably creates different creatures out of this world forcing them not to be generally very calming, soothing, reassuring, or pleasant when they come online nowadays. Which I think are the things we kinda really need right now.

With this high cost of living, some are acting like nothing really changed hence putting them in a box that they ain't even comfortable with.

2. Most of your friends ain't professionals 

Newspapers and TV have rules and regulations that they follow to control due diligence which is needed before legally allowed to publish things. But this ain't the case with some blogs, business-related sites, elevating political propaganda, or even hate and fear-mongering to look like news, say whatever they want for public attention. Sadly, they let us fall into a pit with the trust and acceptance that our parents had with newspapers and tvs.

3. it's just the same thing over and over in our feeds. Each social media site uses that information via an algorithm to provide the user with the content best suited for them. 

This makes users spend all their time on Social media without even knowing they are going through the same thing.

Yesternight I went through my feed to see what kind of content is there in my feed. only to find it's just the same kind of content all over and over leading me to spend my hours on this

4. As most people are probably aware, social media forms unrealistic expectations of life and friendships in our minds.

Most social media sites have a severe lack of online authenticity. People use Snapchat to share their exciting adventures, post about how much they love their significant other on Facebook, and load up their Instagram page with heavily staged photos.

But in reality, you have no way of knowing whether this is all a farce. While it looks great on the surface, that person could be in massive debt, on bad terms with their significant other, and just desperate for Instagram likes as a form of validation.

5. Addiction is a term used to define Learnt behaviors that people can't stay without. Social media creates that feeling of losing out if you are not online. 

I had a small survey asking people what they do the moment they just wake up and the moment they are about to sleep 

I found out that most youths spend their time on social media 24/7 because that's the thing they do before and after going to sleep. It adds up fire to procrastination issues as it gives out temporally security

After being a Facebook mogul for a couple of years, here are some of my suggestions on how we can do better. 

1. Triple consider whether we rely need to be sharing out health-related things on social media.

Ask yourself a couple of questions before sharing because what we share mostly fuels to the negativity we face on social media eg body shaming, cyberbullying, and other kinds of torture. Unless you are up to Something important because mostly it's like sharing boring news with everyone in the office when you are distracting them from real issues hence being bullied.

2. follow actual news media houses for news.

For example during the Corrona era, everybody was sharing information that he or she felt was true, putting a lot of people into cages of fear. Don't follow these Facebook blogs that do everything for attention. (Follow Mikozi though for your own happiness)

Don't follow stupid media houses like mbc ooo damn u wasting your time dude.

3. unfollow doomsayers, panic mongers and idiots.

The good thing is that you know them 😃

4. you can still love or like people without following them

this is called unkindness of disloyalty

Hint "Try Facebook, snooze them for 30 days if you don't miss them you're in for it"

5. just ignore any kind of negativity you facing 😃

Positivity is the way to go.