A mother's heart longs for her kid as the seconds turn into minutes, minutes into hours, and hours into a day, a day into night, nights after nights, from the endless drag of time and on and on. Losing someone we cared about, especially someone close to us, feels like a dagger piercing our heart, causing sorrow every time our heart beats.
I was very discouraged by a colleague's posting on Facebook about their 8-year effort as a couple to get pregnant through artificial insemination, and she still can't have a baby to snuggle and play with. Another acquaintance of mine recently shared her experience with premature labor and the loss of her first child after seven months of pregnancy. These are truly tragic events in life, but they are all too common. Stories like these are unavoidable, and my heart aches for them.
Even in today's world, many women believe that marriage and children are the best ways for them to contribute. Yes! To be a successful mother is to have the traits of an entrepreneur, a cook, a skilled medic, an educator, and a glamour girl all rolled into one. It has the potential to be the most gratifying of all professions.
That's because we've been conditioned to think this way. The typical pattern of getting married, preparing to build a home, saving to have a family, and learning to accept the difficult task of becoming a father and mother. Regrettably, you can't have a baby for no apparent reason, or it's simply too difficult to create one. And, regrettably, sometimes, despite your best efforts, you can't keep that little one inside you, and you lose it in a split second of tribulation.
Despite their attempts, these women had become insecure about their lack of one. They become dissatisfied with life and may place blame on everyone, including God.
I pray that in times of struggle and sadness, your faith will deepen as you get a new knowledge of how God can occasionally turn these misfortunes into future gifts. It has the potential to imbue your marriage with a greater meaning. It is sad for a woman, but if we go to God's word, we will see that our emotional and spiritual fitness as a result of the loss and difficulty of conceiving a child will be a blessing to both you and your partner.
Returning to the life lesson that some couples will learn from this tragic reality, let us simply believe in His constancy. We may not understand our suffering at the time due to grief, but in God's time, the invisible and unexplained will transform into a blessing.
Don't lose hope!