Baskadia

BY: Michael gr Sianungu

We’ve all seen that saying: “The relationship between fish and water makes me believe betrayal is real, when I see water participating in cooking fish.” It’s clever. It stings. But it’s not betrayal. It’s context. And confusing the two is how we misjudge loyalty in real life.

Water didn’t choose the pot. In the lake, water sustains the fish. It gives oxygen, movement, life. In the pot, water is just a medium heated by fire, directed by a cook, following physics. Water didn’t switch sides. The environment changed, and water behaved according to the laws of that new environment. That’s not betrayal. Betrayal requires intent, choice, and a broken trust. Water has no intent. It doesn’t wake up and decide to turn on fish. It’s used.

We do this to people too. We call it betrayal when someone who once helped us is now part of a system that hurts us. But check the context. The teacher who failed you once taught you. During exams she enforced the rules. Same person, different role. Not betrayal duty. The friend who testified truthfully saw the accident. In court, he said what he saw, even though it hurt your case. He didn’t switch sides. He stayed on the side of truth. The parent who disciplines uses the same hands that feed you. Love didn’t leave. The role shifted from comfort to correction.

Real betrayal looks different. Betrayal is Judas close, trusted, and he chooses to sell you out for gain. Betrayal is the bodyguard who unlocks the gate for thieves. It’s active, self serving, and breaks a promise. Water in the pot made no promise to never get hot. It never agreed to disobey fire. Fish assumed the relationship meant “you will always protect me,” but water’s only promise was “I will be water.”

Stop calling every painful change betrayal. Sometimes the people and systems that once carried you are now carrying something against you not because they turned, but because the context turned. So before you cut people off, ask: Did they choose this? Did they benefit from my hurt? Did they break a clear promise? If the answer is no, then maybe it isn’t betrayal. Maybe it’s just water in a pot same substance, different situation, no malice.

Don’t blame water for boiling. Blame the fire. And don’t call it betrayal when someone is just being used by a context bigger than both of you.